In my work with clients, I often see a recurring theme: a deep sense of insecurity that ties back to patterns of attachment. These are not isolated issues they’re woven together in ways that shape how people show up in relationships, how they view themselves, and how safe they feel in the world.
Attachment is our blueprint for connection.
From the moment we’re born, our nervous system is wired to seek closeness, comfort, and safety in others usually by our caregivers. When that closeness is consistently met with warmth, availability, and reliability, a secure attachment forms. It gives a person the internal message: I am worthy, I am safe, and I can trust others.
But when that need for connection is met with unpredictability, emotional distance, or inconsistency, different patterns begin to take root. This is where self-esteem and insecurity start to get entangled with attachment.
Next week I will dive more into how our insecurity can start to heal though connection and new experiences.
